3 Steps for an Abundance Weight Loss Mindset

Dec 01, 2021

with Amber Henline

Consider the following questions:

  • Are you tired of struggling with your weight?

  • Do you struggle with body dissatisfaction?

  • Are you worried about your weight for health reasons but don’t know what to do?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, I’m here to help you with some answers, strategies, and direction. 

The two main reasons why people are unhappy with their weight are concerns about their health and dissatisfaction with their appearance. I’ve struggled with both of these concerns before in my life. Lets’ look a little closer.

Do you really need to worry about your health if you’re overweight? 

The obvious answer is yes.

A Closer Look at Why

 There are many health problems associated with carrying extra body fat.

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  • type 2 diabetes

  • cardiovascular disease

  •  stroke 

  • sleep apnea

  • certain types of cancers

 Extra body weight also worsens certain chronic diseases such as 

  • high blood pressure

  • osteoarthritis

  • joint-skeletal problems 

WHEW, that’s a lot BUT, not everyone who is overweight has health problems! (Yay!) But……

You might be wondering “Is weight loss necessary to improve health?”

There IS evidence to support this,  BUT experts acknowledge it’s unclear if the health benefits people find in many weight loss studies are due to positive changes in lifestyle, such as improved diet and increased physical activity, or to the weight loss that results from these changes. Confusing, right?

 I think what we can all agree on is:

  • Carrying extra body fat increases your health risks.

  • Changes to your lifestyle that result in a 5 to 10 percent drop in body weight are likely to improve your health.

  • Becoming physically active, even if you remain at a higher weight, is also an effective strategy for improving your health.

If you’ve decided that losing a few pounds would be a good first step here’s one option to consider.

“The Healthy Living Option not only pertains to food but to activity as well. This could be including regular physical activity in your life whether its structured and planned OR activities you slowly incorporate over time.”
— Amber Henline

The Healthy Living Option (DUH)- Allow me to explain.  The healthy living option is an option for people who want to feel confident that they are living a healthy lifestyle, learn to accept themselves and be comfortable in their body and enjoy food as part of a healthy life. Who doesn’t want that? But what does it mean, exactly?


  • This involves developing a healthy eating plan with a balanced intake of nutrients.

  • Not seeing foods as “good” or “bad” but as part of a spectrum of “eat more” whole unprocessed food and “eat less” fast-foot and processed food.

  • Allows you to comfortably take part in social occasions without guilt.

The Healthy Living Option not only pertains to food but to activity as well. This could be including regular physical activity in your life whether its structured and planned OR activities you slowly incorporate over time. 

YOUR HOMEWORK- Choose one or more activities that are consistent with your current interests and priorities AND figure out where you will do these things AND when. With WHEN being the most important part. (Pro-tip- schedule your activities, like, actually put them in your calendar)

But how will you change your old patterns to new ones? Changing your lifestyle will take time. Sometimes it’s also a matter of finding out what’s getting in your way and each bump in the road will be an opportunity to understand what went wrong and to put a solution in place so that eventually you will follow your plan with ease. 

Coming up with a plan is where the real change will occur.  This blog post would be too long to go into this in great detail. However, at Abundantly You, if you come to my session, we will dive into how to start a plan and specific steps to take to get started. So, get your tickets now!

One more concern about body weight I’d like to discuss next is BODY IMAGE. And here’s my question-

Will weight loss help you feel better about your appearance?

“I would recommend that you forget the idea of needing to lose weight to feel better about your body.”
— Amber Henline

I’ll give you my answer to this question in a minute. I want you to know that when it comes to body dissatisfaction, you are not alone. Believe me when I say I’ve been there over and over again. You should know that wanting to feel more physically attractive is the most common reason given by women, and a significant majority of men, for wanting to lose weight. Even those who aren’t overweight will struggle with body image at some point.

Research does show that body satisfaction improves as people lose weight. However, experts also feel that weight loss is not a recommended strategy for improving body satisfaction…so what the heck is a person to do?!

I would recommend that you forget the idea of needing to lose weight to feel better about your body.

Easier said than done tho, right?

I want you to take a good look at the things you say to yourself about your body. Do this next exercise to help you become more aware about what you’re saying to yourself.

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall Exercise

Look at yourself in a full-length mirror (don’t be afraid to do this without clothes on!). Look at your body and allow your mind to do what it usually does. Write down on a piece of paper what you think. What words, phrases, or memories come to mind as you look at your body?

Did you write them down? Good.

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Now imagine letting those thoughts run unchecked through your head continually: “I’m such a disgusting pig. I am so ugly; look at my fat ass….” (Just a few of my own examples) What impact do you think thoughts like these would have on your mood, your self-esteem, and your willingness to take part in life? One thing’s for sure: these kinds of thoughts certainly fuel body dissatisfaction. If we heard someone make these kinds of criticisms to another person, we would be horrified.

So, here’s some steps that I hope will help you PIVOT your thoughts.

An Abundance Weight Loss Mindset

Step 1: Catch yourself thinking these negative, self-critical thoughts.

Step 2: Decide. You can allow your head to go on as it usually does, or you can choose to interrupt this line of thinking.

Step 3: Refocus. What would you think about if you weren’t lost in negative thoughts about your body? Would you enjoy the moment (for example, notice the feeling of the water hitting your body in the shower?) Would you think about the day ahead of you? Would you listen more carefully to the person speaking to you? Refocus your thoughts where they belong. It may be a struggle to pull your mind back to where you want it, but it WILL get easier with time.

Here’s a few gentler words you could use to describe your body the next time you’re thinking negatively.

Soft, feminine, curvy, full-bodied, voluptuous, “booty-licious”, strong, womanly, healthy.

Thanks for taking the time to read this blog and for reaching inward to work on developing a healthy relationship with your body!

If you are looking for more guidance in this area it couldn’t hurt to sit down with me and talk over your health and weight loss goals, but first I’ll see you at the next You Conference on March 25th and 26th! 

You can also use the code AMBER starting February 1st for $15 the current ticket price. See you soon!

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